Succeeding in “life” or achieving your goals seems to elude the majority of people most of the time. There are many reasons for this and it’s clear that each person has different circumstances that may effect their ability or inability to reach their goals, however big or small they may be.
Yes, some goals may be harder to reach for some than it is for others, but the perceived level of difficulty doesn’t seem to be directly correlated to the probability of success. i.e. The goal being “easy” to attain, doesn’t necessarily increase your chances of success.
The most important aspect and the easiest determining factor to see if someone will be successful at whatever they chose to aim for is better determined by how many “reasons’ they have for aiming at their goal.
Let’s take smoking cigarettes for example… many people want to quit since they know smoking kills them slowly over time, however smoking is still a billion dollar industry and it doesn’t seem to stop existing smokers from puffing away, nor does it seem to stop new people taking up the habit.
However, if a smoker went to the doctor and was told he has lung cancer and 3 months to live, I’m quite sure that would be enough of a traumatic experience to stop someone smoking abruptly! (If not, then they’re simply fools).
But a long term smoker being diagnosed with lung cancer should not come as a surprise, but I’m sure any poor person who has sadly gone through that trauma would still be shocked at receiving such news…. Why!?
What was the person telling themselves day-after-day, year-after-year? Did they think they will live unaffected by their terrible habit? Did they always intend to quit but didn’t get round to it? Or did they simply ignore the adverse effects and think nothing bad would ever happen to them? I argue that the person gave themselves more reasons to smoke than not to smoke, wether they are consciously aware of it or not.
Im sorry to use such a morbid example, but hopefully it sends the message home. When it comes to achieving our goals we are all telling ourselves stories, reinforcing them with reasons and/or denying truths to ourselves, which leads to unfavourable results.
In most cases the number of reasons we have for something tends to determine if we continue to consciously choose to pursue a certain course of action or not.
Next time you are doing something that you know is not good for you, or not doing something that you know will be good for you, take a moment, stop and observe what is going through your mind and do not judge, just observe! How many reasons did your mind come up with … for (vs) against?
In my humble opinion, the number of solid reasons someone has would encourage me to put my money on them succeeding or not. The more clearly defined your reasons are, the higher your probability for success.
Nothing worth achieving is going to come easy! However when it comes to crunch time and you feel like giving up or you’re faced with hurdles you have to jump (and that time will come) whether you choose to observe it or let it dance around in your subconscious without observing, the action that has the most clearly definable reasons will be the action you take, wether you’re conscious of it or not.
People tend to take the line of least resistance, and when you build up the reasons in your mind and latently in your subconscious mind, it’s always easier to follow the path that’s been widely carved out by the number of reasons that percolate to the surface.
So rather than trying to force yourself into action, it’s better to find additional reasons for the positive line of action you want to take, rather than trying to ignore the urges driven by the reasons your mind is accustomed to manifesting when it comes to crunch time.